We need to move from a state of belonging into a state of being.
The state of belonging
Our state of mind is very much influenced by the state of affairs in the world around us. We often are feeling pulled into a group thinking to feel safe and secure, to belong, not being commented upon or not being seen as ‘different’. This tribe mentality that has been supported by a changing view on reality within cultural, social, political and religious context, has led us into a state of dependency of thought. A group thinking and subconscious entrainment through the various channels we are willingly connecting to on a daily basis. Being able to relate to the protective feeling of a group, a learnt approach to life that has shown us reality through the eyes of the ones leading the troupe. A state of belonging, whether it’s a country, a club or community, it creates a level of safety and security that supports us in the feeling that we are ok and doing well, that we are thinking the right things and applying our learnt behaviors to our living environment according to the rules of the tribe.
In essence there is nothing wrong with this state of belonging to something larger. As long as we don’t start losing ourselves in this bigger thing. Losing ‘Our selves’, the ‘me’.
Once the ‘me’ is no longer able to separate itself from the general thoughts of the bigger community, then a challenging relationship on a personal level starts to develop. Often times people connect to groups, communities, whether socially, culturally, politically, ethnically, religious or spiritually, for the reasons to belong; people may have lost themselves, are afraid to miss out or have become disconnected and are looking for somewhere to feel safe, feel connected and sometimes to emotionally and mentally hide. One thing that is overlooked here then is the ‘how do I connect to myself’, how do I feel strong and how am I enabling myself to rely on my personal innate capacity?
When we look at the life we have led, from birth till now; what are our experiences and how have they shaped us? Have we come closer to the person we are supposed to be? Have we come closer to the purpose why we are here in the place we find ourselves? Purpose appears to be the most challenging aspect for many people, young or mature. Young people find themselves at a crossroads during studies, trying to establish a position for themselves amidst a flurry of pushes and pulls by parents, peers and education systems. This creates a great level of insecurity for these young souls who have often been pulled away from their innate life path by the insecurities of their parents and/or the educational system to adhere to a current trend in ‘future opportunities’. Blinded by this guidance of periodical governance, people then try to adhere and fill the gap for themselves to be secured of a safe future without checking if this kinda future and position is something that fits their personality. Safety first… purpose lost.
But at least there will be a feeling of ‘belonging’. A belonging to a society that will take care of you as long as you follow the trend. A state of dependency whereby your personal state of being and standing up for self is then something that would become an obstruction for progress in the context of society.
Question is, will we be structurally happier as an individual if the focus to belong to or fit into something larger becomes our lead into life? As a person we go through stages in life, stages that deliver on a different outlook on life and a person’s purpose. If we are locked into a place of belonging, then this can become a very artificial place to be; at some point we will find ourselves disconnected from what we do and who we actually are. Our sense of awareness of this situation becomes stronger and more nagging. The place you chose to belong to is not changing its character or relationship to life, while in meantime you are changing your outlook and sensitivities. Learning through life means also changing perspective and questioning ‘the way it supposed to be’ for self and the greater good. Every human being is unique and therefore every human being will have a different view on life, based on an innate connection, experiences and sensitivities that trigger responses to these experiences; an evolutionary process through experience and learning.
State of being
A state of belonging may create a state of dependence, adherence and expectation of external influences to change your life, your relationship to life and creation; belonging creates a state of ‘you’ within a set of agreements that live within your tribe.
A state of being instead, creates a state of awareness of self, acceptance through learning, creating strength and capabilities that can contribute to an external force for change and renewal, whereby you are the creator: a state of being that enforces ‘you’ based on your innate relationship with the world. It will create a state of togetherness and a natural relationship to community by choice, based on the intention to be good for yourself so you can be good for others. ‘Good’ here means being good in the broadest sense.
When we enter our state of being, we will have more clarity of our purpose here on earth. We connect to our inner child and remember what we related to when we were still untouched by the directive forces of parents, society and an overruling educational system. In a state of being we can just ‘be’. Be the person we are supposed to be, regardless of what others may think of us; Living through love and embrace of self, supporting others and self in a way of life that is not ruled by anything else but love, respect and care for each other and for all sentient beings. Once we can connect to this state, fear will no longer be part of our life. We trust in the good of human kind, the good that we are supposed to bring forth in this life. Trust in self and all that is part of our environment to build new and create a sustainable society based on a natural connection and togetherness.
We are nature. A state of being brings us back to nature and its healing vibration. When we allow ourselves to become vulnerable, as nature is, we naturally will be protected by other forces. Life is balance, nature thrives on its innate state of balance, and balance can only exist when we allow for it to become part of our life. As soon as we try to take control, the natural balance will be challenged. Much evidence of this is visible in the world we are living now. Control delivers on a great imbalance of everything that lives. When in a natural balanced state of being, control is no longer an issue. It doesn’t mean that we should not make choices to set out a direction for ourselves. It means that we only should use the element of intention to define where we would like to go. From there we need to trust that as long as we hold a solid and consistent relationship with our intention, that all that we would like to create will eventually come alive. We start taking ownership over our life and our life purpose. Guided by trusting all that is part of us and the universal forces (God) to support us in our endeavours and stay connected to our state of being as a whole and complete person and positive force, to create new for oneself and for others, through a healthy community and togetherness based on one and the same intention: Love.
Awareness, understanding, acceptance, change.