Moving from a state of belonging into a new state of being.
State of belonging
Most of us will be familiar with this aspect in life. Our state of mind is very much influenced by the state of affairs in the world around us. As an individual we often are feeling pulled into a group thinking for safety and security, a tribe to belong to, not being critized or commented upon or not being seen as ‘different’. A tribe mentality that has been supported by a changing view on reality within cultural, social, political and religious context, has led many into a state of dependency of thought. At the stage of turmoil we find ourselves at the moment and for many, a feeling of inadequacy can become the general state of mind.
A group thinking and subconscious entrainment is growing through the various channels we are willingly connecting to on a daily basis. Being able to relate to the protective feeling of a group, an adherence and learnt approach to life that has shown us reality through the eyes of the ones leading the troupe. A state of belonging, whether it’s a country, a club or community, creates a level of perceived safety and security that supports us in the feeling that we are ok and doing well, that we are thinking the right things and applying our learnt behaviours to our living environment according to the rules of the tribe.
Throughout human history, tribes have been a natural part of our existence and survival, growing up with each other and protecting each other as one big family. To some extend this may still be our current experience but a shift on psychological level has taken place.
In essence there is nothing wrong with the state of belonging to something larger. As long as we don’t start losing ourselves in this bigger thing. Losing our 'selves’, the 'I’ inside, and with that losing the trust and respect for ourselves and everyone around us.
Once the ‘I’ is no longer able to separate itself from the general thoughts of the larger community, a challenging relationship on a personal level may start to develop. As human beings we often times connect to groups, communities, whether socially, culturally, politically, ethnically, religious or spiritually, for the reasons to belong; people may be seeking for external support. Many are afraid to miss out or have become disconnected and are looking for somewhere to feel safe, feel connected and sometimes to emotionally and mentally hide.
A lot of digital tribes have been created over the last ten years or so. A new generation has grown up into this, while older generations are connecting to it to keep up with the change of times. On a subconscious level these channels and tribes can lead to addiction and a road into self-esteem challenges or other psychological challenges. The main aspect that is being challenged here then is ‘how do I stay connected to myself’; how can I feel strong on my own and how am I enabling myself to rely on my personal and innate capacity as an individual?
When you look at the life you have led, from birth till now; what are your experiences and how have they shaped you? Have you come closer to the person you are supposed to be? Have you come closer to your life purpose and to why you are where you find yourselves now? You are born with an innate sensitivity to your environment that can lead you to a natural and organic relationship with the world you grow up in, if this is nurtured.
Connecting or staying connected to one's life purpose appears to be a challenging life aspect for many people, young or mature. Your life changes over time, because you change over time and everything around you changes over time and has done so much faster over the last 50 years.
Young people find themselves at a crossroads during studies, trying to establish a personal position amidst a flurry of pushes and pulls by parents, peers and education systems. Often times this creates a great level of insecurity for these young souls, pulled away from their innate life path by the insecurities of their parents and/or the educational system to adhere to a promoted current trend in ‘future opportunities’. Blinded by this guidance of periodical governance, many people then are willing to adhere and fill the gap for themselves to secure a projected 'safe' future without checking if this kinda future and position is something that fits their personality.
Safety first… purpose lost.
But at least there will be a feeling of belonging to a society that you expect will take care of you as long as you follow the trend. A state of dependency whereby your personal state of being and standing up for self is then something that would become an obstruction for progress in the context of today's and future society.
Question is, will we be structurally happier as an individual if the focus to belong to or fit into something larger becomes our personal lead into life? As an individual we go through stages in life; stages that deliver on a different outlook on life with a shift in a person’s life purpose. If we are locked into a place of belonging, then this can become a very artificial place to be. At some point we will find ourselves disconnected from what we do and who we actually are. As our sense of awareness grows, the discomfort of this situation becomes stronger and more nagging. The place you chose to belong to is not changing its character or relationship to life as much as you are changing your outlook and your sensitivities to everything you engage with.
State of being
There is a need for each one of us to keep learning through life. This means changing perspective, moving through critical thinking and questioning ‘the way it supposed to be’ for yourself and for the greater good of everyone else and this planet. Every human being is unique and therefore you will have a different view on life from everyone else, based on an innate connection you are born with, the experiences you lived through and sensitivities that trigger responses to these experiences; an innate character and evolutionary process through experience and learning. This is the basis of your connection to life here.
While a state of belonging may create a perceived safe state of dependence, adherence and expectation of external influences to change your life, your relationship to life however will develop into a state of ‘you’ within a set of agreements that live within your tribe.
A state of being instead, creates a state of awareness of self, building on innate characteristics, acceptance through learning, creating strength and capabilities that can contribute to an external force for change and renewal. Here you are the creator: a state of being that enforces ‘you’ based on your innate relationship with the world. It will nurture a state of togetherness and a natural relationship to community and tribe by choice, based on the intention to be good for yourself so you can be good for others and everything you connect with.
When you enter your state of being, you will be more aware and have more clarity of your purpose and the human purpose here on earth. You will naturally connect to your inner child and remember what you innately related to when you were still untouched by the directive forces of parents, society and an overruling educational system. In a state of being you understand that you can just ‘be’. Be the person you are supposed to be, regardless of what others may think of you. Living through love and the embracing of self, supporting others and self in a way of life that is not ruled by anything else but love, respect and care for each other and for all sentient beings.
Once you are able to connect to this state, fear will no longer be part of your life. You accept and trust the good of human kind, the good that all of us humans are supposed to bring forth in this life and all what life is bringing forth for you. Trust in self and all that is part of your environment to build new and create a sustainable society based on a natural connection and togetherness with others and all that we relate to as a human race.
All of human kind are nature. You are nature. You already belong. When you find yourself into your state of being, this will bring you back to nature and its natural healing vibration a different state of belonging. When you allow yourself to become vulnerable, as nature is, you naturally will be protected by other forces. Life is balance, nature thrives on its innate state of balance and trust, which can only exist when you allow for it to become part of your life. As soon as you try to take control, the natural balance will be challenged. Much evidence of this is visible in the world we are living now where balance and trust have mostly disappeared. Control and dishonesty deliver on a great imbalance of everything that lives, and mostly governed by fear.
When you find yourself in a natural and balanced state of being, control and fear are no longer an issue. Your choices for a life direction and purpose are then defined by trust in positive intention only. From there you need to grow trust that, as long as you hold a solid and consistent relationship with the set intention, all you would like to create will eventually come alive. You start taking ownership over your life and your life purpose. Guided by trusting all that is part of you and the universal forces (God) to support you in your endeavours and stay connected to your state of being as a whole and complete person and positive force. To create new for oneself and for others, through a healthy community and togetherness based on one and the same intention: Love, the new state of belonging which we create from our personal way of being, within a tribe that naturally understands the way into living life by supporting and nurturing all that is connected to this earth. A tribe that lives through love, trust and respect and in turn will be supported and nurtured by all of life and all sentient beings.
Awareness, understanding, acceptance, change.